“If, however, your feelings have changed, I will have to tell you: you have bewitched me, body and soul, and I love, I love, I love you. I never wish to be parted from you from this day on.”
– Mr. Darcy in Pride & Prejudice
Whether you’re a die-hard Jane Austen fan or not, you’re probably familiar with the quote from Mr. Darcy expressing his love to Miss Elizabeth Bennet. However swoon-worthy this quote may be, it is not always the reality for those in romantic relationships today. We’ve all been there. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship and assessing your future together or exploring the early stages of a new relationship, we’ve all questioned the status of a relationship and if it’s headed in the right direction. Navigating the seas of a romantic relationship can be challenging and frustrating but can also bring great joy when you develop the skills necessary to guide a happier and healthier relationship.
Psychologist Michael Winters, Ph.D., will discuss the evolution of love and share emotional and communication skill strategies to help you asses the status of romantic relationships in our upcoming course, “Where is This Relationship Headed?” We asked Dr. Winters to share more about his upcoming class including who might benefit from taking the class and some of the takeaways for students. Who would most benefit from taking your class? Several types of people may benefit from this class: First, those who are in a fairly new relationship, and are trying to understand if the relationship is a good long-term “fit.” Second, those who are in long-term relationships and are wondering if the relationship is still working, if the relationship will stand the test of time. Third, those who are not in a relationship, but are interested in the decision making process in a relationship. What are the most frequently asked questions you receive about relationships?
- Why is it so hard to stay connected with someone I love?
- What happened to the person I fell in love with? — the person I am with now seems like a different person.
What is the secret to a successful and meaningful relationship? There is no single “secret.” Every relationship is different. Part of the difficulty is that a relationship requires a commitment from both people involved. Some relationships that look from the outside to be very conflictual, but have high commitment may last. Other relationships that outsider observers may think is “ideal” may not last because one or both partners are not committed to the relationship. There are many things couples can do to increase connection if both are committed to the relationship. What do you enjoy most about teaching for the Glasscock School? I enjoy that the students come to the classes because of a personal interest — not to fulfill a requirement. So the students are very motivated to learn. What do you expect students to take away from this class? Hopefully students will have new strategies to examine their relationships and their own motivations for being in a relationship. Students should have a clearer understanding of the difficulty of all romantic relationships, but also more clarity about their continued desire to emotionally invest in their current relationship.
Note: The intent of this course is to offer a general educational overview of the topics described. If you are seeking specific therapeutic guidance, please consult with the mental health professional of your choosing.
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Rachael Shappard, Marketing Coordinator